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下一颗子弹

在漫长的时光里，你将如何回忆我？我追问你

你转过头，拨弄我的头发,眼睛里是慈悲

“两岸红花烂漫，你是那一条冰河。”

你说过，我一定要幸福，必须要幸福，如果不幸福

你的一生就毁了。

你知道，

我汹涌的眼泪将全流回在心里，

在你的一生中，默默哭泣。

我知道，

我们是没有机会

说再见了。

狂欢节

这一周来腰酸背痛,精神倦怠,仿佛生命在睡梦里翻了翻身,微微醒来,发现连起床都是那么困难的事.

伤筋动骨,但其实所思所想都是人间琐碎,窗外的人们天天习以为常,信手拈来.

只有我这么累吧,以后累多了,脑子里也就有了肌肉吧.

笑得多了,也就成了笑.

I gave my love a cherry

失语状态从4月底行进到8月，大概是脑子里面的两个小人聊得太投机，都没空出来晒晒太阳。一抬头，发现云彩不再那么温吞像面团。用一个晚上收拾房间，打扫掉灰尘，让窗外的潮湿把我抱紧。重新喷起Daisy的香水，迷恋于甜蜜蜜的女儿娇气。这让人想起盛夏的草丛和无遮无掩的笑容。当然，还要有我美美的睡衣们：）。深夜里收到确认的邮件，有惊喜的欢迎，顿时心里暖暖的。 上次一起品酒，应该是为了希腊那个小岛上的阳光吧？

 

一如既往地筹划纠结，一晚上下来只想笑笑。所有的人，都只是希望自己开心，为了开心而不开心？就好像很多人都明白高手总要低调谦逊，但低调谦逊到让大家看不到，大家要不然就看不到，要不就认为其为庸才。都是悖论。什么时候才能统一起来？觉得国人活得甚是辛苦。只想简单，但精美地活着。

 

去了好友家聚餐，偌大的房间原来只有小姑娘一个人生活。尝试港式做法的鸡翅，莲子与蘑菇相亲相爱， 形状精致的魔芋丝。地道的凉面。带去franken地区的spatlese白酒，千叮咛万嘱咐要好好对待它。三个人窝在大沙发上看杜拉拉升值记，专门挑人家制度的毛病，和各种山寨logo，各种打情骂俏，喜上眉梢。

 

学了很多用英语说得安慰别人的话，不明白为什么要叫take heart. 有了心，有时候会不会更不开心？想法和结果真真是相互作用的反馈环。这东西不仅影响股价。

 

想到用第一印象形容各国各地的流行音乐，日本-清澈，法国-乐观，英国-冷酷，澳洲-疯狂，德国-规矩，中国台湾-郁闷，香港-简单，美国-性感，中国大陆-帅气。有点不敢去听梁静茹了，是不是预言全成了真相？明知道的痛也需要开始。

 

梦想和现实的GAP， 我们要一起缩小它。活在当下就足够了。

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

减肥阶段性成果汇报

经历了20个无晚餐的夜晚后， 在前天晚上17：54点了 一个大盘的田园蔬菜。

 

Jump to the conclusion:

 

 

 

有时候得不到比得到了但不满意好。

下一站：英国？

说着多憎恨，但不得不承认我最好的朋友都在那里呆过不止1年的时光。

我憎恶那里的冷漠不着边界，

但也怀念着那里的画展，音乐会，巧克力，美丽的人们。

还有因为疏离带来的各种灵感。

也许这次，

我还是得一个人前行。

Being an introvert in an extroverted world

 

 

Introverts can feel at a disadvantage when everybody else around them seems so comfortably extroverted. But Sunada feels that the world benefits from the influence of qualities that come naturally to introverts. She explores ways that quieter types can be more “out there” without having to compromise who they really are.

Are you an introvert? When you’re feeling tired or stressed out, do you prefer to be by yourself – and do things like curl up with a book, soak in a hot bath, or go for a walk alone? If you’re a meditator, chances are pretty good you’ve got introvert tendencies. I definitely do.

 We pause and reflect before we speak … we’re conscientious and loyal … our friendships are strong and deep. In a world where many are feeling overwhelmed by busyness and disappointed by superficiality, how could these qualities not be valuable?  

But the world out there is mostly extroverted. I’ve heard that 75% of Americans are extroverts (though it varies from culture to culture). I used to work in business, where that percentage is even higher. Our world tends to reward extrovert qualities, like the ability to chat easily with strangers, be outgoing, and constantly on the move. If you look up “introvert” in a thesaurus you get the following synonyms: brooder, egotist, loner, narcissist, and wallflower. Not very flattering, is it? But the truth is, whenever we’re at big, boisterous parties with lots of people, the whole scene can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.

My meditation practice has brought me to see things in a new light. Yes, we introverts may be fewer in numbers, and certainly less visible. But I now see that we naturally possess many qualities that the world could really use more of. We know how to slow down, take a deep breath, and smell the proverbial roses. We usually pause and reflect before we speak – so when we do have something to say, it tends to be meaningful. We’re conscientious and loyal. And though we may have small circles of friends, our friendships are strong and deep. In a world where many are feeling overwhelmed by busyness and disappointed by superficiality, how could these qualities not be valuable?

 I’ve learned how essential it is to take time for myself … to keep my batteries charged up – and not be ashamed of having to do it!  

So if you’re a fellow introvert, let’s stop seeing ourselves as outsiders or somehow “lesser” people. Let’s stop isolating ourselves because we’re “different”. The world has much to gain from us introverts bringing ourselves and our genuine strengths out there.

And how do we do this without having to fake being something we’re not? First and foremost, I’ve learned how essential it is to take time for myself, all alone, to keep my batteries charged up – and not be ashamed of having to do it! In the Myers-Briggs system of classifying personality types, the Extrovert-Introvert dimension is defined by where you draw your energy from. Extroverts prefer the outer world of people and things. They get energized by being active and engaged with others. Introverts prefer to focus on their inner world of thoughts and images. They regain energy through solitude. So it’s not about whether you like being with people or not. It’s a matter of energy, and where you get recharged. I know several people who seem quite social and outgoing, but would be considered introverts by this definition.

So it’s no wonder that we introverts can’t keep up with an extrovert lifestyle. We would burn ourselves out. To me, solitary time is as necessary to my well-being as food and water. I make sure I get some daily. My meditation time is of course part of this picture. If I’m traveling or attending a multi-day event with other people, I make sure to schedule some solitary time afterward to recharge. I’m now aware that any skimping I do is at my own risk!

. Being introverted isn’t a good or bad thing in itself. It’s the stories we’ve built around it that make it so. Do we see ourselves as inferior? Do we go to social events with a feeling of dread? Do we walk around with a self-image as someone who has difficulty talking with others? Are we constantly judging what we say? I have to admit I used to do all those things. And still catch myself doing them from time to time. But It’s also very worthwhile to examine our own attitudes about our introversionall these thoughts only serve to sabotage us even before we get out of the gate.

 If we can step out of the trap of our negative stories, we’ll find infinite ways to engage with the world without having to fake anything.  

If we can step out of the trap of our negative stories, we’ll find infinite ways to engage with the world without having to fake anything. When I worked in business in the past, I learned that some of my natural but less visible inclinations were really valued by my colleagues. In addition to being an introvert, I’m also very intuitive and able to relate to people easily (I’m an INFJ, for those of you who know Myers-Briggs). Sure, I wasn’t among the socially active and “popular” ones. But I was usually the one who quietly figured out what was really going on behind the scenes. I might pick up on people’s unspoken needs, notice someone who was afraid to come forward, or play diplomat to patch up simmering disagreements among team members. No, these things weren’t part of my job description. But over time they became my signature strengths – and I came to be respected for my ability to keep a team running smoothly and congenially because of them.

In my current line of work, I need to be out networking and meeting people to promote my business. Sales and marketing are probably the things introverts hate doing the most! But this is doable in introvert-style too. I never do any “cold calling” or selling to total strangers (even extroverts have a hard time with that!). If I’m meeting somebody new, I usually establish contact first by email. The next step might be a phone call. For a face-to-face meeting, I go with an agenda in mind, with specific items I want to talk about, rather than leaving it open and freeform. I’ve also learned that if I talk from the perspective of what’s meaningful to me personally, my enthusiasm catches on – and my self-consciousness doesn’t have room to creep in. In fact, I think that it’s my low-key style that brings people to believe in me and what I have to say. I’m not pushing anything on them, so they feel free to decide for themselves.

So if you were born an introvert like me, I would urge you to make the conscious choice to live as an introvert, and be proud of it. On the one hand, it means respecting some very real limits we face. We need to preserve our energy through lots of solitude, and know how not to put ourselves into situations that make us feel tongue-tied or overwhelmed! But at the same time we can bring out our natural strengths in our own quiet way. I’ve learned that when I allow what’s authentic in me to shine through, people notice and really appreciate it.